The Dua of Rasullulah(saw) in the month of Rajab
Saturday, May 11, 2013
Words are Physicians…
A boy Abdulla was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and Abdulla was the apple of their eyes.
One morning, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. As he was late for work, he asked his beloved wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. The mother, who was preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot to close the bottle.
Abdulla playfully went to the medicine bottle and fascinated with its colour, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child started shivering and showed signs of poisoning, the mother immediately drove him to the nearby hospital. Despite desperate effort by the emergency trauma unit, doctors were unable to the save little Abdulla and he died in his mothers loving arms. With tears flowing incessantly from her eyes,she recited "innalillahe wa ina ilayhe rajeun"-To Allah we belong and unto Him shall we return.[This prayer was thought to us by the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him when we encounter any loss]
"Be sure We shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives, and the fruits of your toil. But give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who say, when afflicted with calamity, 'To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.' They are those on whom descend blessings from their Lord, and mercy. They are the ones who receive guidance." (Quran-2:155-157)
The mother was in a state of shock. She was too terrified to face her husband. Gaining her composure after a few minutes she built up the courage to call her husband and inform him of the tragedy.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw Abdulla, his one and only child lying motionless before him, tears flowed like a river from his eyes…he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.
1. What were the four words ?
2. What is the implication of this story ?
Check with the answers only after you have tried to come up with your
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The husband just said " I Love You Darling ."
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behaviour.
He is indeed gifted by Allah with wisdom and a genius in human relationships. The child is dead. Allah mentions in the Quran: " Every soul shall taste of death" [Quran 21:35]
Abdulla can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding
fault with the mother on this occasion. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.
Always be positive in adverse conditions. Allah say:"Those who suppress their anger, and forgive other people – assuredly, Allah loves those who do good."(Quran: 3/134)
There is an alternative to thinking about people, life and the world…You can see the possibilities and opportunities for growth, happiness, wellness and strength....its up to you!
Behind every Dark Cloud there is a Silver Lining
Hamza married Ruwayda. After the nikaah(wedding), Ruwayda's mother gave her a newly opened bank savings book with a R2000 deposit amount at the local Islamic Bank.Ruwayda's mother said: "Take this savings book. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line...
The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with your husband. When you look back after years, you will know how much of happiness you've had.'Ruwayda shared this with Hamza when she arrived home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit could be made.
This was what they did after a certain time:
- 2 Jan:R200 Hamza became Hafizul Qur'aan.
- 7 Feb: R300, Ruwayda's Dad took us with for HAJ.
- 1 Dec: R300, Hamza graduated
- 20 Mar: R200, Hamza got an excellent job
- 15 Apr: R2000, Ruwayda got pregnant and later gave birth to a baby
- 1 Jun: R1000, Hamza got promoted... and so on...However, after years, they started fighting and arguing over trivial things. They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the most nastiest people in the world... no more love... Kind of typical nowadays, huh?
One day Ruwayda spoke to her Mother:
'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We have agreed to divorce. I can't imagine how I have decided to marry this guy!!!'
Mother: 'Sure, Ruwayda, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really cannot stand it. But before that, do one thing first... Remember the savings book I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'
Ruwayda thought it was true. So she went to the Islamic Bank, waiting at the queue and planning withdraw the amounts and to cancel the account. She intended to give Hamza his due share.While she was waiting, she took a look at the book record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home. When she was home, she handed the book to her husband, and asked him to spend the money before getting divorced.The next day, Hamza gave the book back to Ruwayda. She found a new deposit of R5000...and a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you through out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.' They hugged and cried, putting the savings book back to the safe.Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone through all the good years in their life.
"When you fall, in any way, Don't see the place where you fell, Instead see the place from where you slipped. Life is about correcting mistakes."
In every moment of our lives, we are given a choice. How shall we regard this world in which we live? Is it good, or not? Is there hope for the future, or not? Is this world full of beauty, life, blessing and love; or is it cold, heartless and ruthless? In every moment, it is one or the other…and how we regard and react to it is up to us."If you are grateful, I will surely give increase My favours unto you" (Quran-Surah Ibrahim 14: 7)."Behind every Dark Cloud there is a Silver Lining"
Saturday, May 4, 2013
To such a magnanimous lady in every way
Her pleasure is a visa for you in Jannah(heaven) to stay
Celebrating her not only once a year
A mother is so precious and dear.
Take lesson and to Allah sincerely pray
That Mother's Day should be celebrated EveryDay!
The Prophet Muhammad [Allah's peace and blessings be upon him] said:
"Jannah[Heaven] lies under the feet of your mother" (Hadith-Ahmad, Nasai).
"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and do good to parents. If any one of them or both of them reach old age, do not say to them: uff (a word or expression of anger or contempt) and do not scold them, and address them with respectful words" [Quran-17:23]
Although honouring and respecting one's parents is incumbent upon Muslims, care should be taken that it is not done in an unislamic way. Our dear and beloved Mother is too precious to be honoured Only Once a Year on Mother's Day. Particular care should be taken to honour this great lady Every Day!
HONORING MOTHER'S IN ISLAM
The ties of kinship are very important in Islam, with emphasis given to the relationship between children and parents. Children are required to respect and obey their parents unless doing so involves a sin. Furthermore, adult children must continue to honour, respect and show gratitude to their elderly parents, and are expected to care for and support them. In the event the parent has passed away, children should make dua(pray) for them, give charity on their behalf(e.g. sponsoring a well etc) , perform Haj and Umrah on their behalf and treat their friends in a kind manner.
HIGH STATUS OF MOTHER IN ISLAM
In Islam, a mother has especially high status. She is to be given greater respect and honour than the father due to the difficulty of pregnancy, childbirth, nursing and child rearing. This is supported by many ahadith:
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated :"A man came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, who among the people is most deserving of my good company?' He said, 'Your mother.' He asked, 'Then who?' He said, 'Your mother.' He asked, 'Then who?' He said, 'Your mother.' He asked, 'Then who?' He said, 'Then your father.'" (al-Bukhaari and Muslim).
Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).
Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah[pbuh] said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim)
It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).
ISLAMIC PERSPECTIVE ON MOTHER'S DAY
Islamic Scholars are unanimous that celebrating Mother's Day does not have it basis or origins in Islam. In fact it has its origins in Non- Muslim culture and today it is being promoted mainly due to commercial purposes. Therefore mother's should be loved, respected, obeyed and appreciated every day, with no need to single out special days to honour them. Muslims already observe three established holidays (eids) in Islam: Eid al-Fitr, Eid al-Adha, and the weekly Jumu'ah eid. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) warned Muslims not to add or remove anything from their religion, saying: "If somebody tries to introduce into this faith of ours (Islam) something which is not a part of it, it is to be rejected and that person is condemned." (al-Bukhaari and Muslim)Therefore, Muslims should be satisfied with their faith and avoid the traditions and holidays of non-Muslims, including Mother's Day and Father's Day. While the intention of honoring parents is good, Muslims should be honoring their parents each and every day, and not limiting that level of respect and affection to a single day each year.
We thus can conclude that Islam has emphasized on respecting and honouring mothers, as is evident from the Quran and Hadith. We are not only required to honour mothers during their life time, rather after their demise as well.
May Allah Ta'ala grant us all the tawfeeq to fulfill the rights of our mothers and be recipients of their dua's not once a year but EVERY DAY!, Amin.
My Mother's Day!
"I love you, mom," whispered Yusuf as he wrapped the soft pashmina shawl around his mother's shoulders. The vibrant peach contrasted with the dark rings that had grown under her eyes lately, but their brightness had not faded.
Her eyes lit up as she stroked the delicate embroidery on the edge of the shawl, "And this…Yusuf?"
Yusuf looked at her with the excitement of a young boy unpacking his first bicycle, "Wait ma…there's more," he cried, as he removed a burgundy jewellery box. Presenting it in front of his mother, like they were the crown jewels, he gingerly lifted the lid to reveal a string of exquisite cultured pearls, delicately strung together with small black pearls breaking the shimmer of the white pearls.
"Yusuf!" exclaimed his mother, her eyes brimming, "What's all this?"
Yusuf stepped back and looked at his mother holding the pearl necklace close to her chest, admiring it, "Mom, always wanted a pearl necklace…."
"But it must have cost you a small fortune," said Saffiyah as she held the pearls up to the light, studying the delicate changes of colour as she turned the necklace, "Why now…what's special?"
"It's my mother's day!" he beamed.
"Er..," began Saffiyah as she craned her neck to look at the calendar behind her, "But it's not mother's day. Not for a while, yet?" a puzzled look settling on her face.
"I didn't say it was Mother's day," replied Yusuf, "I said it was MY mother's day. But let me explain…."
"You remember I told you about Nasser who recently moved here from the coast?"
Saffiyah nodded in acknowledgement.
"Last night I met him at Sheikh's program and asked him why he always begged sheikh for duas. I just found it strange that he would always insist that Sheikh make dua for him. He gave me an odd reply – he asked me if my mother was alive, and if I had fifteen minutes. I confirmed that I had both. We sat at the back of the masjid and he told me his story."
Yusuf paused to pour some tea, adding a sugar to each cup, handing one to his mother he continued, "Nasser told me that since his door of dua (supplication) had closed a long time ago, he had to seek another door for dua. Not understanding, I asked him what he meant. He was silent for a long time, and I thought perhaps I said something wrong, but he just looked at me and smiled. Wiping a tear from his eye he told me that his mother passed away when he was only five years old. He said that he could still remember the smell of her hair after she washed it, but remembered little else."
Yusuf watched his mother sipping her tea and noticed just how wrinkled her hands had become, the gold wedding ring still sat gracefully on her ring finger. She always took pride in grooming her nails, buffing them to a perfect shine.
"After Nasser's mother passed away he lived in the care of his aunties. They were good to him and cared for him as one of their own. They bought him what he needed and he had much of what he needed. Then he told me "You know, Joe, no one can replace the embrace of a mother. And no one can replace the dua (prayer) of a mother. I lost that dua a long time ago." Then I thought of all the duas you make for me - how often when I rush out of the house you always say, "Yusuf, slow down, Allah Ta'ala be with you!" "Allah Hafiz." "Yusuf, may Allah Ta'ala make your children the coolness of your eye."
"Ma…I never really cherished those duas until I heard Nasser's story," said Yusuf, dabbing his eye with a tissue, "I never knew that those were treasures beyond measure. And then it made some sense to me of what Sheikh said when he quoted Abdulla Ibn 'Abbas (RA), "If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him."
"And when Nasser told me – 'Joe (as Yusuf was referred to by his friends), you know, I will never be able to call anyone in this world Mum, and I will never know the embrace of a mother. You still have it, Joe, value it, treasure it,' I realised that what Allah had favoured me with was something so special that I couldn't just celebrate it once a year and call it mother's day. I decided that from now MY Mother's day will be Every Day! - Yesterday, today and tomorrow will all be mother's day. I can never repay you, but I know the heart of a mother asks for no repayment. And…if I can do nothing else for my mother's day then I will at least thank Allah that he allowed my door of dua to be open for one more day."
"Forgive me ma….." Yusuf choked, "I need to do so much more for you…."
Saffiyah clasped his hands and stroked his face, "You are a good son, Yusuf, Allah Ta'ala will grant you lots of goodness in this world and the next."
Sunday, April 14, 2013
Pearls of Wisdom: No.28
Allah, The Most Exalted, says:
"Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to your parents. If one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect, or scold them, but say a generous word to them. And act humbly to them in mercy, and say, 'My Lord, have mercy on them, since they cared for me when I was small." (Qur'aan-17: 23-24)
The Noble Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
"He is not of us who does not have mercy on young children, nor honour the elderly"
When peoples reach old age, they are treated mercifully, with kindness and selflessness. In Islam, serving elderly, in particular one's parents is a duty second to prayer, and it is their right to expect it. It is considered despicable to express any irritation when, through no fault of their own, the old become weak and vulnerable.
For an inspirational story on RESPECT FOR ELDERS please visit:
What goes around…comes around!
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year - old grandson.
The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.
The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor.
When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
'We must do something about father,' said the son. 'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.'
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.
When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded,
'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up. ' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.
Remember what goes around comes around! How you treat your elders so will you be treated.
Allah, The Most Wise, says: "And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents" [Al-Qur'an 29: 8]
"And your Lord has decreed (commanded) that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents..." [Al-Qur'an 17: 23]
The Messenger of Allah, Muhammad(peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
"A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."[Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 :Narrated byAbu Darda ]
These are few, there are lot more that describe the importance and value of parents. So you see, This is like a chain. Today you give respect, love and honour to your parents and tomorrow you will get it all from your children InshaAllah! Let us all be wise builders and role models for our children.
So now Choose Yourself what do you want to take with you in your old time, A WOODEN BOWL or A FRUITFUL TREE.