An Earnest Appeal to Parents
The post exam is a period of care-free relaxation and indulgence. It is the common practice of students during this interim to indulge in frivolous pursuits not to mention haraam and abominable actions. It is un-Islamic to get involved in those activities which attract the wrath of Allah. It is extreme foolishness and utter dimwittedness to indulge in things which Allah has, explicitly through the Qur'aan Majeed and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam, forbade us from.
"Lo! All of you are leaders and shall be questioned on the day of Judgement in respect of your trust. So, the king is head unto his subjects and shall be question in respect of them, the husband is a head unto his wife and shall be questioned in respect of her, the wife is a head unto her husband's house and the children, and shall be questioned in respect of them all; the slave is-a watchman unto his master's effects and shall be questioned in respect of those. So you all shepherds and you shall be questioned in respect of that entrusted to you." (Bhukhari - Muslim)
Parents! Allah's commandments are being broken without any fear of causing the anger of Allah, thus leading them to the fire of Jahannam. What are we doing to save our dear and beloved ones?A man's daughter, sister and wife are all over the world held in very high esteem by the family members, and as such, regarded sacred, so much so that if a stranger happens to molest them, it is almost synonymous to death to the families of these people. History bears witness to the fact that, in order to preserve one's honour and dignity, a dignified person leaves no stone unturned even if he has to spend every cent he possesses to achieve this end. Today, despite widespread permissiveness, this inherent attitude in man still prevails very strongly, yet we Muslims show indifference and continue recklessly along the path of degradation and destruction. History bears witness that no nation on the earth was able to retain its power, glory and strength when it chose to disregard the law of Allah that governed it. Obedience to and respect for the law of Allah is the only means wherewith a nation can retain its dignity, power and glory. Flagrant disobedience of Allah's law leads to certain destruction. Shall we then go on to aid and abet the un-Islamic order of society and way of life, and thereby cause Muslims to be annihilated?
On the other hand, every Islamically respectful manner and dignified attitude has been abandoned and jettisoned by Muslims countrywide. It is hurtful and repugnant to see that Muslims regard permissiveness and everything that Allah abhors as lawful and dignified, thus inviting the wrath and anger of Allah.They care not, and remain unmindful of crossing the boundaries set out by Allah for the preservation of human dignity and instead they indulge freely and willfully in the taking of intoxicants which is declared by Allah to be the storehouse and mother of all sins, which are abominable to Allah.
1. Parties
2. Time being spent at evil places
3. Associating with friends who have evil habits
4. Alcohol and drugs
5. Gang fights
6. Pornography
7. Cellphone/mobile/internet chatrooms [such as Mix it etc]
8. Returning home in the early parts of the morning[especially during christmas and new years eve]
9. Intermingling of sexes
The Solution
Ø Do not send them to school after exams unless proper control and supervsion is present.
Ø To keep them busy.Explore contructive deeni ways to keep them occupied.
Ø Encourage reading of good Islamic Books.
Ø To send the males in the path of Allah
Ø Females to participate in taleemi programmes and da'wah activities held in the neighbourhood.
Ø To assist widows and the sick
Ø Males to participate in volunteer work e.g. any Islamic activities supported and supervised by Ulema.
Ø Visiting patients in hospital
Ø And if your children wish to go on any outings then accompany them to such places, if such places are Islamically acceptable, otherwise prohibit them from going.
Ø Try and engage in ISLAMIC ACTIVITIES like memorization of Qur'an and the Zikr of Allah.
Ø Make available some good Islamic cd's such as lectures, nasheeds,quran,zikr etc
Ø Ensure punctuality in Prayers at its FIXED times.
*SPEND AS MUCH TIME AS POSSIBLE WITH YOUR KIDS!!!!!...There is NO substitute to Parental Guidance & Supervision!!!!
IMPORTANT: Don't forget to ask Allah for Protection & Help as Nothing can be achieved without the help of Allah!
The Messenger of Allah Muhammad Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam has informed us that the Dua of a father in favour of his child is definitely accepted by Allah! (Timidhi, Ibne Majah)-Hadith