Ø Keep in mind the pleasure of Allah and uphold Shari'ah.
Ø Adorn yourself and your family modestly in the best of garments (not necessarily new).
Ø Should Eid be made at my mum or your mum or whoever?This requires Mashurah (mutual consultation).
Ø Mashurah is a Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W).Try and accommodate each other.
Ø Maintain and strengthen family bonds- Rasulullah (S.A.W) is reported to have said, "Anyone who wishes to have his means of livelihood enlarged and a prolonged life, should treats his relatives with kindness."
Ø Don't forget the poor and needy- Hadhrat Anas (R.A) has reported Allah's Messenger (S.A.W) as saying,"For him who aids one who is distressed Allah will record seventy three acts of pardon, one of them compromising his whole well-being and seventy two being grades of rank for him on the day of resurrection."