The Messenger of Allah Muhammad [Peace be upon him] is reported to have said:
"Give gifts to one another, for gifts take away malice."
( Hadith-Mishkat)
The Messenger of Allah Muhammad [Peace be upon him] used to accept gifts and give gifts in return.
(Hadith-Bukhari)
Udhiyya (Qurbâni)
Allah Ta'ala, The Most Wise says:
"It is not their meat nor their blood that reaches Allâh, it is your piety that reaches Him. Indeed He has subjected them (animals) to you so that you may glorify Allah for guiding you, and give glad tidings to those who excel in good." (Quran-22:37)
The Noble Messenger of Allah(Peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
"For every hair that is on the sacrificial animal, one reward is recorded for the person making the Qurbâni."
"There is nothing dearer to Allâh during the days of Qurbâni than the sacrificing of animals. The sacrificed animal shall come on the Day of Qiyamah with its horns, hair and hooves (to be weighed in reward). The sacrifice is accepted by Allâh before the blood reaches the ground. Therefore sacrifice with an open and happy heart."
"Whoever has the capacity to sacrifice and does not do so, should not come to the place where the Eid prayer is offered." (Hadith-Ibn Majah).
Love him …when he "forgets" that special occasion. For him every moment with you is special so he does not need an occasion.
Love him…when he comes late from the Musjid. He wants to make sure he is early with you in Jannah (Paradise).
Love him…when he admonishes you to don the hijaab. He wants to be sure you enshrouded by Allah's Mercy when you leave the home.
Love him...when he is jealous. Out of all the women he could have, he chose you to be his wife!
Love him...when he is working till late. At least he comes home and you still get to sleep and wake up in his loving and caring arms.
Love him…when he has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too (and maybe more)
Love him…when does not praise your cooking. He told you as newlyweds that yours was indeed always the best.
Love him…when he looks dishevelled. He was more busy caring for the family than grooming himself. By the way he is cute!
Love him…when he does not help in the home. He is out earning a halaal (pure) income for the family.
Love him...when he does not reply to your questions. He does not want to hurt your feelings or is absorbed in thinking about your welfare.
Love him…when he looks beautiful. He's yours to appreciate!
Love him…when he goes out in the Path of Allah. He is preparing a blissful eternal home for you in Jannah.
Love him...when he does not comment when you get angry. He is a good listener.
Love him…when he buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell him it's what you've always wanted. He took the time and money out just for you!
Love him…when he has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help him change.
Love him…when he is irritable and moody. Buy chocolates, massage his head and feet and just chat to him. He will become your slave!
Love him…when whatever you do is not pleasing. It's like a storm; it happens and will soon pass by.
Love him…when he drives so fast. He only wants you to be there in time.
Love him…when he extends his period of rest. He is re-charging himself to serve you the best.
Love him…when he forgets to say "I love you". He actually shows his love in many other ways.
Love him…when he forgets to buy the bread or milk. He was rushing home to be with you.
Love him…when he does not give you a chance to talk. He just knows what is in your heart and what it is you want to say.
Love him…when he "demands" respect. After all he is the head of the house.
Love him…when he shouts the kids. He only wants to ensure they are corrected and have a good moral upbringing.
Love him…he is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!!
All this forms part of a man's character. Your Husband is part of your life and should be treated as the King!.
Almighty Allah Ta'ala says:
" And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)…" (Qur'an 30:21)
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
· 'Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.'"(Hadith-Ibn Majah)
· "If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish."(Hadith-Ahmad and al-Tabarani)
· "Pay attention to how you treat him(husband), for he is your Paradise and your Hell."(Hadith-13 Ahmad and al-Nisa'i)
· "No human being is permitted to prostrate to another, but if this were permitted I would have ordered wives to prostrate to their husbands, because of the greatness of the rights they have over them."(Hadith: Ahmad and al-Bazzar)
Don't wait for that special occasion, take time NOW to make him feel Special in Every Way! Just give him a HUGE HUG and if he asks why then say: " It's just because you are so SPECIAL…"
1. Hazrat Anas radiyallahu anhu reported Allah's Messenger sallallahu alaihe wasallam as saying, "Everything has a heart and the heart of the Holy Qur'aan is Yaseen. Allah Ta'ala will record anyone who recites Yaseen as having recited the Holy Qur'aan ten times."
2. Hazrat Ata ibn Abu Rabah radiyallahu anhu told of hearing that Allah Messenger sallallahu alaihe wasallam said, "If anyone recites Yaseen at the beginning of the day, his needs will be fulfilled."
3. Hazrat Maqil ibn Yasaar Muzani radiyallahu anhu reported the Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam as saying, "If anyone recites Yaseen for Allah's pleasure, his past sins will be forgiven; so recite it on those who are dying."
4. Hazrat Anas radiyallahu anhu reported Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam as saying, "Whoever goes to the graveyard and reads Surah Yaseen Allah Ta'ala gives them (the grave dwellers) ease that day, and the reciter receives spiritual blessings equivalent to the amount of letters of Surah Yaseen."
5. Hazrat Maqil ibn Yasaar radiyallahu anhu reports that the Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam has said, "Recite Surah Yaseen on those who are dying."
6. Hazrat Ummud Darda radiyallahu anhu reports the Noble Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam saying, "Over no person who is about to die and Surah Yaseen is read upon them but Allah Ta'ala lightens the difficulties of death for him."
7. Hazrat Abu Hurairah radiyallahu anhu says that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihe wasallam has said, "Whoever recites Surah Yaseen at night seeking the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala, that night he will be forgiven."
8. Hazrat Aisha radiyallahu anhu reports Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam saying, "Indeed in the Noble Qur'aan there is a Surah, for its reading will intercede and will be a means of forgiveness for its listener. Listen carefully, it is Surah Yaseen, in the Torah it is called Muimmah."
It was enquired, "O' Messenger of Allah, what is Muimmah?"
Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam replied, "It contains for its reader the benefits of this world, it removes from him the dread of the next life, and it is called Dafiah and Qadhiyah."
Again it was enquired, "How is this Surah Dafiah and Qadhiyah?"
Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam replied, "It takes away from its reader all afflictions and fulfills his need. Whoever recites it, it will be made equal to twenty pilgrimages. Whoever shall listen to it, it will be as thousand dinars, which he has given as charity in the path of Allah. And whoever shall write it and then drink it, it will enter into his heart a thousand cures, a thousand radiant lights, a thousand times more increase in belief, a thousand mercies, a thousand blessings, a thousand times more increase in guidance, and will remove from him all gall and disease."
9. Hazrat Abu Hurairah radiyallahu anhu reports the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihe wasallam saying, "Whoever recites Surah Yaseen on the eve of Friday he will be forgiven by morning."
10. Hazrat Abu Hurairah radiyallahu anhu reports the Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam saying, "Whoever recites Surah Yaseen at night he will be forgiven in the morning, and whoever recites that Surah Haameen in which Dukhaan is mentioned he will be forgiven in the morning."
11. Hazrat Jundub ibn Abdullah radiyallahu anhu narrates that the Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam has said, "Whoever reads Yaseen at night seeking the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala he is forgiven."
12. Hazrat Ibn Abbas radiyallahu anhu reports Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam saying, "My heart's desire is that Surah Yaseen should be present in the heart of every individual of my Ummah."
13. Yaha ibn Abi Kathir says, "This narration has reached me that whoever shall recite Yaseen at night, he remains content till morning and whoever shall recite it in the morning, he remains content till evening. And that person who has related this to me has also experienced this." Thalabi said, and Ibn Atiyah has mentioned this and Ibn Atiyah says, "Experience confirms this."
Thousands of children under the age of 15 are diagnosed with cancer each year. If detected early, more than 75% of childhood cancer cases can be treated successfully. Childhood cancers share general symptoms with other illnesses, but if one or more of the following symptoms persist, a doctor should be consulted without delay.
C ontinued unexplained weight loss
H eadaches, often with vomiting, at night or early morning
I ncreased swelling or persistent pain in bones, joints or back
L ump or mass in the abdomen, neck, chest, pelvis or arms
D evelopment of excessive bruising, bleeding or rash
C onstant infections
A whitish colour behind the pupil
N ausea that persists or vomiting without nausea
C onstant tiredness or noticeable paleness
E ye or vision changes that occur suddenly and persist
R ecurrent fevers of unknown origin
If any of above symptoms becomes apparent seek professional advice urgently.
Try an always expose ourselves and especially our kids to the healthy and sunnah way of life. The best and most effective weapon against cancer is knowledge. If you consider that one-in-four individuals may be affected by the disease during their lifetime, you will realise how powerful knowledge is in terms of risk reduction, prevention and early detection. Junk and processed foods should be avoided. Include a healthy diet and promote a lifestyle that includes regular exercise, not smoking, staying safe in the sun, doing self-examinations and undergoing regular medical checkups.
Most of all make dua(pray) that Allah always keeps us healthy as well as those that are near and dear to us…..Ameen
"Surely Allah is with the patient" (Quran 7:46)
Motivational Story (A truly worthwhile read)
Sympathy and self-sacrifice
Allah, the Exalted, says: "... and do good that you may be successful". (22:77).
Relaxing in the lounge Saturday after Fajr salaah my wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling son eat his food?'.
I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only son Faizaan looked frightened. Tears were welling up in his eyes. In front of him was a bowl filled to its brim with cereal containing the much needed vitamins needed by Faizaan after his month long illness. Faizaan was a pleasant child, quite intelligent for his age. He has just turned nine. He particularly detested the vitamin fortified cereal. My mother and my wife are traditional and believe firmly in the benefits of the age old traditional porridge cereal.
I cleared my throat, and picked up the bowl. 'Faizaan, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this cereal? Just for Dad's sake, dear. Faizaan softened a bit, and wiped his tears with the back of his hands. 'OK, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should…' Faizan hesitated.
'Dad, if I eat this entire Cereal, will you give me whatever I ask for?'…'Oh sure, darling'… 'Promise?'...
'Promise'. I covered the soft hand extended by my son with mine, and clinched the deal.
'Ask Mom also to give a similar promise', my son insisted.
My wife put her hand on Faizaan's, muttering 'Promise'.
Now I became a bit anxious. ' Faizaan dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items.
Dad does not have that kind of money right now. OK?'
'No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'. Slowly and painfully, he finished eating the whole quantity.
I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat. After the ordeal was through, Faizaan came to me with his eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on him...
'Dad, I want to have my hair on my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was his demand.
'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'my child having his head shaved off? Impossible!' This is following the crazy "skin heads" culture capturing the youth in our community! Never,never,never will I allow it!!!
'Never in our family!' my mother rasped.'He has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!'
Faizaan darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.'
'No, Dad. I do not want anything else', Faizaan said with finality.
'Please, Faizaan, why don't you try to understand our feelings?' I tried to plead with him.
'Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that cereal'. Faizaan was in tears.
'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words.
Dear beloved father, in our daily sessions of Taalim (Islamic education) was it not you who told me the stories of the Companions of our beloved Prophet Muhammad [peace be upon him] and how they kept to their promises! You did emphasize that we should honour our promises no matter what!
It was time for me to call the shots. 'Our promise must be kept.'
'Are you out your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.
'No. If we go back on our promises, he will never learn to honour his own. Faizaan, your wish will be fulfilled.'
With his head clean-shaven, Faizaan had a round-face, and his eyes looked big and beautiful. On Monday morning, I dropped him at his school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Faizaan walking towards his classroom. He turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile.
Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, Faizaan, please wait for me!'
What struck me was the hairless head of that boy. 'May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought.
'Sir, your son Faizaan is great indeed!' Without introducing himself, a man got out of the car, and continued,'
That boy who is walking along with your son is my son Yunoos. He is suffering from… leukaemia(cancer).'
He paused to muffle his sobs. Yunoos could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. Faizaan visited him last week, and promised him that he will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined he would sacrifice his lovely hair for the sake of my son!
Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your son.
I stood transfixed. And then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how self-less real love is!'
Note:The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for the ones whom they love...
Our beloved Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) sacrificed all his wealth, health and comforts for humanity!
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, " If anyone fulfils his brother's needs, Allah will fulfil his needs; if one relieves a Muslim of his troubles, Allah will relieve his troubles on the Day of Resurrection; and if anyone covers up a Muslim (his sins), Allah will cover him up (his sins) on the Resurrection Day". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
A recipe to kill your Mother-in-Law…
The battle rages for ages- "Mother-in-Law vs Daughter-in-Law". Yet the solution is so simple to end "The War"… Treat each other with the respect they deserve and you would have a perfect relationship.
A long time ago in South Africa , a girl named Miriam got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Miriam found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Miriam was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Miriam constantly.
Days passed, and weeks passed. Miriam and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient African tradition, Miriam had to obey her mother-in-law's every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Miriam's poor husband Musa great distress.
Finally, Miriam could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Miriam went to see her late father's good friend, Mr Hakuna a traditional healer and an ex-Sangoma (witch- doctor). Mr Hakuna just recently became a Muslim and changed his name to Haakim. He was made aware that witch-craft (jadoo) is totally prohibited in Islam.
Miriam remembers that Mr Haakim used to many years ago sell herbs and muti (magic powder) and was notorious for his evil mystical powers. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.
Mr. Haakim thought for a while, and finally said, ' Miriam , I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.'
Miriam said, 'Yes, Mr. Haakim, I will do whatever you tell me to do.' She was now desperate. 'Mr. Haakim who was now a good Muslim had repented and changed his former evil ways. He went into the back room. Miriam could hear the sound of water flowing. Mr Haakim was performing wudhu and then took out his Musalla and performed salaah . After completing his salaah he lifted and his hands to towards the sky and made dua . Miriam could hear him talking and using the name Allah. Miriam believed that he was talking to the "Evil-Spirits" to help him make the deadly potion she urgently needed to kill her mother-in-law.
Mr Haakim returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Miriam, 'You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. I will also as a bonus give you a magical word which you must say and then blow on her food when you are preparing it. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Thereafter say the magical word 'Bismillah' and blow into the food. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you, when she dies, you must be very careful to be actively friendly towards her. 'Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.' Miriam was so happy.
She thanked Mr. Haakim and asked him how much she owed him. He told her that she was just like a daughter to him and her late father was his best friend so he could not charge her. Miriam hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law. Finally she had the recipe she for so long desired.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Miriam served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She never forgot to blow the magical word 'Bismillah' into whatever she prepared for her mother-in law. She remembered what Mr. Haakim had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.
After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Miriam had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.
The mother-in-law's attitude toward Miriam changed, and she began to love Miriam like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Miriam was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find. Miriam and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Miriam's husband Musa was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Miriam came to see Mr. Haakim and asked for his help again. She said, 'Dear Mr. Haakim, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.'
Mr. Haakim smiled and nodded his head.. ' Miriam, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. When I accepted Islam and became a Muslim I gave up all evil practices and have completely abandoned doing or supporting evil. I now only obey Allah and Allah's Last and Final Messenger Muhammad (may peace be upon him). In Islam we are thought to be kind and to do good to others.'
The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health and the magical word 'Bismillah' is a word from Allah's Final Book "The Quraan". Bismillah means I begin in the name of Allah(God). This is proven to be an "all-in-one" remedy. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude towards her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her and off course the main ingredient was the Help of Allah. Being relieved and fascinated Miriam thanked Mr Haakim immensely.
LESSONS: Treat each other with respect, love and the kindness they deserve and you will indeed see the best in them. There is a wise saying: 'The person who loves others will also be loved in return.' Indeed Allah Ta'ala might be trying to work in another person's life through you.
'A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one.'
Allah Ta'ala says: " So whosoever does good equal to the weight of an atom shall see it. And whoever does evil equal to an atom shall see it" Quran (Surah Az Zilzaal)
A pious and positive lady once said: "I was once blessed with a wonderful mother; I am twice blessed with an excellent mother-in-law and now I'm trice blessed with such a lovely daughter-in-law "
There is no perfect Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in Law. It is up to each of them to bring out the best in the other. Don't demand and lay emphasis on your rights instead be mindful of your duty and responsibility to the other and Insha Allah you will see the most beautiful relationship blossoming.
May Allah grant us true happiness in our homes and relationships…Ameen
Some mothers in-law have an unintended and uncontrollable feeling of rejection and resentment towards their daughters in-law. This could be caused by one of the following three reasons:
First: The eldest son is a source of compassion and love which mothers benefit from, especially at old age; therefore, they would not have good feelings towards those whom they think would deprive them from such a source.
Second: The mother, who has spent her entire life raising and caring for her children, finds it difficult to accept that the daughter in-law, who has never shouldered such responsibilities, is able to properly care for her son.
Third: The mother in-law could have different values, principles or even ideologies from the daughter in-law. When would the mother in-law be the wronged one?
Some mothers in-law suffer from grief and depression due to differences and disputes with their daughters in-law. The daughter in-law may treat her badly, neglect her, and even keep the grandchildren away from her; this is compounded when the mother in-law is a widow and her children mean everything to her.
Most mothers are pleased by something as minor as a kind word being said to them; this is because they require special care, as their lives are empty due to the loneliness they feel, which makes them think that they have no use in life. Therefore, it is especially important that their children are merciful and understanding towards them; they should make them feel important and involve them in certain matters and decisions, in order to make them feel that their opinion is important, and that they are valued and needed.
How can a wife win the pleasure of her mother in-law?
The wife should fear Allaah, lest she becomes a cause for her husband to be undutiful to his parents.
How can a mother win the pleasure of her daughter in-law?
Many mothers in-law treat their daughters in-law just as they treat their own daughters, and are very supportive towards them and their new life; this is because the daughter in-law is not only the wife of her son, but is also the future mother of her grandchildren, who are usually dearer to the grandparents than their own children.
On the other hand, there are many cases where the new wife is regarded as the personal property of the mother in-law, but why? In many traditions, the wife is dealt with as the property of her husband, and since the son is the property of his parents, then it follows that the ownership of the wife is in the hands of her in-laws, and this is a very dangerous predicament.
The mother plays a very sensitive role in the life of her children; a single incorrect move on her part could cause her children's lives to turn into intolerable misery. On the other hand, an affectionate touch from the mother could render her son's household into heaven. The following are some things a mother in-law could do to win the pleasure of her daughter in-law:·
This behaviour is exhibited by an ideal mother in-law, one who fears Allaah and seeks to make her son's house a happy one, and who seeks to strengthen the relationship between her and the daughter in-law.