Friday, November 18, 2011



 By Abu Muhammad Yusuf


Our children are a trust given to us by Allah. Depending on the upbringing we give them, we may make them morally good and upright persons or if they are just left uncared and untrained they may become victims of environment and morally bereft. There is a great responsibility that has to be borne by both parents and guardians.


Allah Ta'ala says:


"O you who believe! Save yourselves and your families from the fire.."

(Quran-Surah 66 -6)


The Noble Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:


 "Lo! All of you are leaders and shall be questioned on the day of Judgement in respect of your trust. So, the king is head unto his subjects and shall be question in respect of them, the husband is a head unto his wife and shall be questioned in respect of her, the wife is a head unto her husband's house and the children, and shall be questioned in respect of them all; the slave is-a watchman unto his master's effects and shall be questioned in respect of those. So you all shepherds and you shall be questioned in respect of that entrusted to you."

 (Hadith:Bhukhari - Muslim)


An Earnest Appeal to Parents


The post exam is a period of care-free relaxation and indulgence. It is the common practice of students during this interim to indulge in frivolous pursuits not to mention haraam(forbidden) and abominable actions. It is extreme foolishness and utter dimwittedness to indulge in things which Allah has, explicitly through the Qur'aan Majeed and Nabi sallallahu alayhi wasallam, forbade us from.


It is the objective of shaytaan(satan), the accursed, to deviate the ummah from the by means of false promises and the notion that such - and - such an activity is wide-spread and therefore acceptable and a norm. Parents and students alike should take heed of the warning given by Allah Ta'ala not to indulge in activities that cause harm spiritually and socially.


 As a parent, are you prepared to see your Beloved Child Burning? If a child is set alight, flailing his arms and screaming in agony, will any respected human being, forget a parent, be able to witness such horror without it affecting the heart and forcing the body into action, to extinguish such fire and saving the child? It is not possible for any person to be a passive spectator in such an event. Therefore, how is it possible for parents to allow our children to engage in activities which only paves the way to ultimate destruction, i.e. Jahannam (Hell), not to mention, the misery we light in our hearts right here in this earthly life when we suddenly realize that our dear children have become involved in some destructive addiction or haraam relationship. By then it is too late. Let us act now and secure our youths future.


What are we doing to save our dear and beloved ones? 


Despicable Activities commonly engaged in by the Youth:


1.  Parties

2.  Time being spent at evil places (night clubs etc)

3.  Associating with friends who have evil habits

4.  Alcohol and drugs

5.  Gang fights

6.  Pornography

7.  Unsupervised Internet chatrooms [such as Mix it etc]

8.  Returning home in the early parts of the morning [especially during christmas and new years eve]

9.  Free intermingling of sexes

10.  Zina (adultery, fornication) 


The Solution


  • Do not send them to school after exams unless proper control and supervsion is present.
  • To keep them busy. Explore constructive Islamic ways to keep them occupied.
  • Encourage reading of good Islamic Books.
  • To send the males in the path of Allah under adult supervision.
  • Females to participate in taleemi (educational) programmes in the neighbourhood.
  • To assist widows,elderly,orphans and visiting patients in hospital.
  • Males to participate in volunteer work e.g. any Islamic activities supported and supervised by Ulema or responsible adults.
  • If your children wish to go on any outings then accompany them to such places, only if such places are Islamically acceptable, otherwise prohibit them from going.
  • Try and engage in ISLAMIC ACTIVITIES like memorization of Qur'an and the Zikr of Allah,learning duas etc.
  • Make available some good Islamic cd's such as lectures, asheeds,quran,zikr etc
  • Ensure punctuality in Prayers at its FIXED times.


*SPEND AS MUCH TIME AS POSSIBLE WITH YOUR KIDS!!!!!...There is NO substitute to Parental Guidance & Supervision!!!!


Kids are like a garden, the more time and efforts you spent nurturing it the better fruit and flowers it will indeed produce! Likewise inculcating good habits and morals in our kids will definitely be a means of your happiness in this world and salvation in the hereafter.


IMPORTANT: Don't forget to ask Allah for Protection & Help as Indeed Nothing can be achieved without the help of Allah Ta'ala!